It doesn't matter what other people think, right? Then why do I care so much? Why do I care what a random person says about me? Why is bugging the heck out of me that someone (that I wouldn't normally have even associated with for more than 20 seconds at a time) is most likely conversing with another random someone about the disorganized, bumbling, flaky-flake they believe me to be?
If I'm going to be 100% honest, I'll have to admit... because it's partly true. Despite the fact that I begged for help (3 times!) and tried to find someone else to take on the responsibility that I grudgingly agreed to do, the fact of the matter is that I DID say yes and I DIDN'T do a good job. And that? BUGS ME. It irritates me more than the snippy email I received. It irritates me more than the looks I will receive the next time I see them. Owning this problem does NOT sit well with me. In fact, it is giving me a rolling stomachache. And I own it. Oh yes. I own it...
Gah... I am ok when taking care of my own family. I can organize us. But to organize other people? NOT MY CUP OF TEA. Sigh... Lesson learned, I guess.
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SOOOO been there. (((hugs))) because I know it feels like crap. I still find myself embarrassed and ashamed and afraid to ever volunteer for anything again for fear of what they'd say.
All you can do is learn from it, and learn to be more realistic before you volunteer.
Also, ever heard the expression, "you wouldn't worry so much what other people think about you if you knew how seldom they do"? It has a grain of truth to it. I realize maybe they are talking now, but it will blow over.
You're still a good person, and I definitely still think you're completely responsible.
But, remember, your son is still getting his full month of archery lessons! You can fix this new glitch like you fixed that one. Or just breathe and try to let it go and have a pastry. Either way, hang in there.
I raise my middle finger in the general direction of the inconsequential person.
I think you're very cool!
Me too.
I flip the bird to the people talking about you.
I'm sorry you're feeling bad.
I really can't stand mean people.
I don't know the exact situation, but people need to be more understanding. I mean, does it make them feel better about themselves to make you feel bad.
I'm the same way in that I would let something like this eat away at me, but looking at it from the other side I really hope you can let it go (maybe some chocolate would help?).
People only talk about others when they are jealous. Relax and try not to let them get to you. There is a saying I once heard from Dr. Laura once "get in a fight with pigs it'll get dirty and they'll love it" in this case the other person is the pig trying to bring you fown to her level. Good luck!
Its because we are human...words hurt and it sucks! But don't let it stick with you because your rubber and their glue!!!
Oh, Tracey, that sucks. I wish people didn't INSIST on wearing their asses for hats. Still, I'm with the others in assuring you that I think you're awesome. And it will blow over soon I'm sure. Love ya.
I've been there, too. It sucks. And yeah, my biggest lesson was what am I realistically capable of contributing to something else. And that people are very reluctant to help, but sure don't hesitate to point fingers when something goes wrong (or sometimes take credit when it goes well).
I *do* hope that you have a great day today. ((hugs))
Oh. Ugh. What an awful feeling, but I think we've all been there at one time or another. Hang in there!
I'm sorry! I'm the same way - it does bother me what people think about me, because I don't like making mistakes or being talked about! Don't worry though - Mom24 is right!
I think at one time or another we all feel this way, the key is to learn from it and move on.
I think by own it, you are definitely on your way to moving on.
Take it as constructive criticism and move on. Even if that's not how they meant it.
On the bright side, maybe you won't get cornered- er, asked- to do whatever it was again. silver linings baby. Keep them in mind!
I think we all have to learn that lesson and it is a hard one. Plus, I hate it when I don't do a good job or when others are talking about me.
I have an acquaintance who has been emailing me regularly over the last couple of weeks. She’s asking me to confirm whether I want to teach a voice class for kids at a local community college over the summer. I had originally wanted to but lately my head has been else where and I’ve been ignoring her emails. To be honest (as well), it turns out that with recent “stuff” on my plate I don’t really want to do it anymore. I’ve been putting it off instead of admitting that I’m going to let her down. I finally wrote her and apologized for being a flake. Lesson--“Know thy self.” For me ambivalence usually means I don’t want to do it.
--diggydaddy
Your post made me feel better - I volunteered for something I shouldn't have given my limited time, and totally flaked out on something I was supposed to do. And I don't know why it bothers me so much. Now I have to face that person on Monday...
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