Monday, February 23, 2009

The Parenting Tango...

Two steps forward.
One step back.
Try not to let your heart get stepped upon
too many times...

Every fear,
Every pain,
All the outcomes your too-vivid imagination can dredge up...

I don't know the steps to this dance.

I need an instructor.
Please guide my feet so I can guard my heart.
I cannot let him be trampled upon...

"I'm concerned about your son..."

Labels and stereotypes.
Cold-shoulders and bullies...

How can I protect what I must release into the world?



Let's just say that Parent-teacher conferences didn't go quite as well as I'd hoped....

18 comments:

L~ said...

It's hard to hear the hard stuff! and to let go...

Kamis Khlopchyk said...

oh man, sorry to hear that, hope it all works out. this parenting gig is hard eh?

Karen said...

2 forward 1 back, you still come out ahead. HUG!

Michelle said...

I'm sorry things didn't go as well as you'd hope. Just know that we're here for you, even if it's just to read what you need to get off your chest!

Anonymous said...

It's SO hard being a parent.

I don't know if this would be any help at all, but when I struggle to see/acknowledge/deal with a behaviour in one of my boys, I try to look ahead, oh, 20 years ... and see that the things frustrating me (and them) now might very well be their strengths when they are older and have the maturity to channel emotions/behaviours appropriately. It gives me hope on the "hopeless" days.

Jane of Seagull Fountain said...

Oh, Tracey! He's lucky to have you for a mommy. Just remember that your most important job is to love him. (I know you already know that!)

the mama bird diaries said...

Oh I'm sorry!

anymommy said...

Hang in there. You are both going to be fine.

Stephanie Wilson she/her @babysteph said...

OH no- I'm so sorry and unfortunately can relate. There is so much I can't share on my blog because I just can't. But I think I can relate.

Steph

Dana said...

I've been through that kind of meeting. Luckily for us, things are now on the upswing and I'm finally hearing some great things about my kid! You'll get there. Just hang in there...

CaraBee said...

So sorry to hear that. Keep your chin up!

Marie said...

Perhaps something I have to say could be of assistance? Or not, in which case dismiss it. But when my second child was about 3, he was diagnosed "Autistic". I knew they were wrong, he didn't make eye contact with the doc because he had no use for the doc. At 4, it was Asperger's. I feared the label, until I realized no one but me would use the label outside school. And inside school, his teachers never mentioned it to the other teachers. And the label got him the extra help, in the form of an ed tech to help him stay on task and adapt, he so desperately needed.

Anonymous said...

I was so upset after Jacob brought home his first report card. Although he did really well academically, all I could focus on was, "he can't sit still," "he doesn't stay on task," "he disrupts other," etc. I had to send my husband to the conference alone because I was a mess!

I understand, Tracey. And judging from you comments, so do a lot of other moms.

Catherine said...

This is beautifully said...but I'm sorry for the struggle. Being a mom....what a job!

mamatucci said...

I am so sorry. It is hard to hear others judgements of our children.

Anonymous said...

Yeah, it's too bad they didn't come with instructions. (and insanity meds.) I always feel that they wll have their ups/downs and that's how they grow. It's scary to think that at somepoint, we have to let them make their own mistakes and decisions based on what we think we instilled in them. How scary. Good luck.

Gettysburg Mom said...

I'm sorry.

Christina said...

Oh I understand. My first "we're concerned about your daughter" talk was devastating. Hopefully it isn't too bad, and is something you'll get through together. Let me know if you need to talk - I'm usually around.

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