Sunday, September 30, 2007

300

Wow. I am posting my 301st post!! Whew! No wonder my house is a mess!! :)

What a drag this weekend has turned out to be. I was being a good wife and totally agreed to Patrick golfing yesterday morning as the boys didn't have soccer, and "knew" that we'd have the rest of the day together so it'd be no big deal for him to be gone in the morning. (we hardly see him. Seriously, I keep the kids up some nights so that Daddy can kiss them goodnight. Pathetic.) Well. His wonderful new job required him to be in yesterday and he got home at 9:00. AND! Even more fun! He's at work TODAY. On SUNDAY. From 7-11 (supposedly). We're supposed to be meeting him at my parents' house for a bbq/football game get together. Yeah. We'll see if he actually leaves at 11...

So much for the great new job that has great new hours and opportunities, right? Yes. Life could be worse. But right now? Right now, there's a majorly huge thorn in our family's side. We don't see Daddy. We don't get to be with each other. I get stressed. He gets stressed. The kids are stressed. I am parenting 24/7. He is working 24/7. How is this good for us, again? The kids KNOW that Daddy isn't here. They're sad, they miss him, and they don't understand. And I can't tell them when it will end. And I'm pissed. VERRRRY pissed because this is the most we've argued in our entire marriage. (not that we argue much now, even, in comparison to some couples. We're just not very argumentative). We can't talk to each other for more than a few moments at a time. I hate this. And we're stuck. And it sucks. And I'm gonna bitch here, because I can't bitch to him anymore. It's not really his fault. And he's not happy with it, either.

So. Bitch, bitch, bitch. Whine, whine, whine. There. You all know I'm in a foul mood right now. Waiting for my coffee to kick in. Hoping for another gorgeous day. The weather at least has been great. Crossing my fingers that the van doesn't die on the way to my parents' house. Yet another thing that I haven't had a chance to take care of with Patrick being gone 24/7. He can't help with the household duties, mainly the cars.

Ok. Turning my frown upside down now (PUKE!).

I got to see Evan in action in his class on Friday as a teacher's helper. It's interesting to watch your child interacting in his own class. He has lots of friends and I hope it's not because the other kids are seeing him as someone to be friends with so that he won't pick on you... You all remember that kid in your own class, right? Yeah. I'm not saying that this is Evan YET. I'm just fearful that he may have the potential to become that kid. And, other than enforcing the no name calling, be nice, etc. I don't know of anything else to do for him. Just hope, I guess.

Ok, well. Corinne is throwing a 2 year old tantrum next to me so I have to go. Doesn't she know her birthday isn't for another 3 weeks? Oy. Little diva.

14 comments:

Tonya said...

I hope that his schedule gets better. Maybe it is just an adjustment period?! Hubby and I tend to not see eye to eye when we aren't around each other as much.

andria said...

Okay, this is the fourth time I've tried to comment, see if it goes through.

Short version...

We are doing the same work thing here. Hate it. Add soccer, school, and gym to the mix and we are gone all the time. Hate that too.

Maya sling? good for older baby? What's your favorite?

300....cool.

Jamie said...

Sorry to hear about hubby having to work so much. It's tough finding the balance between earning the money you need and not working around the clock.
Good luck to you.
3 weeks until birthday time! Yay!

Michelle said...

I'm sorry to hear this new job isn't what you both thought it would be w/the better hours etc. Was that something that was told to him before he accepted the position? Can he talk to them about the long work hours and days away from home and basically tell them that isn't what he signed up for? I hope this doesn't last too long and things settle back down into a better routine!

Beck said...

Some times in our life are just hard and there's really no fixing them - just the hope that we can get through them with some measure of grace. I hope things improve quickly.

Maryam in Marrakesh said...

oh wow. That is lousy. My job requires that I travel a lot. And when I am not here....well, you guessed it. It is so tough. All things considering, my husband is a total champ about it but I miss the kids so much while I am away. And well, ahem, things could be more romantic but both of us are so exhausted a lot of the time. The important thing is that we are committed to each other, to our marriage and to our families and we just try to build in quality time whenever we can.

Rimarama said...

Hey, I completely understand about the work thing - we have almost the exact same situation over here, and I have to keep reminding myself not to be mad at my husband because it's not like he wants to be working the long hours and the weekends, etc. But, yea, it totally sucks, especially when the kids are still small and clingy and need you for so many things . . .

Miss Hope said...

I know when my hubby was on a boat(submarine)(shore duty now), they worked nonstop for weeks before going out. We never got to see him and THEN the boat would leave for a certain amount of time. It was like having a phantom husband/dad. Drove me infreakingsane. Feel free to bitch and whine to your heart's content. We totally get what you're saying.

Melissa said...

We had a summer of crazy job stuff. 14 hour days 6 sometimes 7 days a week. Not fun... I'm so sorry... Maybe he needs to remind the people in charge of the hours that were agreed on???

theflyingmum said...

Ick. Hope you guys are able to talk/work it out soon. at least the weather's good there - sucks here.

Kailani said...

Maybe it's because the job is new. Hopefully, things will settle down soon. Hang in there!

Kailani
An Island Life

Phoenix said...

That completly sucks. I hope he gets a break soon.

Jamie said...

Hey Tracey,
Just wanted to let you know I drew your name for the holiday card JPEG! Yay!
When you pick out a design and have some photos ready, just email me at weelittledesigns@hotmail.com.
No hurry, whenever you are ready!

Elle*Bee said...

That stinks about his new job. Perhaps when he gets a little more established there, he'll be able to say "no" more often.

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